So today was a bit better and i think it is because my boyfriend and I had a conversation about what is acceptable with the dog and what is not. For example, tonight the dog will not be attempting to sleep in our bed because he woke up (and wouldn't go back to sleep) two nights ago and was put in his cage at 3:30 and last night he decided to pee on the bed and was also put into his kennel for the night.
Our dog has been well potty-trained for I'd say a month or so now, but it seems that he continues to have accidents when he is in unfamiliar areas, like my boyfriend's parent's house - or our bedroom (he has been excluded from that area due to the carpet being in only that room). I just wish he would be more mellow, similarly to when we got him from the shelter. I should just be thankful that he is happy and healthy I suppose. His energy should calm down a bit as he gets older (I hope) and then I think he will be more manageable for the both of us.
We were both home between classes today and it was nice to just relax and let the dog play around the apartment. We were able to talk about the dog being only 5 months and with it being cold around here, the dog hasn't been out much to exercise; the pup also gets too cold to exercise much outside - which is both sad because he picks up his feet and whines but also a bit humerus because he is the one that runs far out into the field and then gets cold - thus I often pick him up to keep him from getting any colder.
This I think has help my understanding of the perspective of my boyfriend, but also helped me say a bit of what I wanted to in a constructive manor rather than just attacking one another and starting a fight. I would still like to get constructive input on my observations or the situation. Also, if you have any tips on adapting a crate-trained dog to sleeping on a bed I would be interested to hear them.
Thursday, January 30, 2014
Wednesday, January 29, 2014
Me in a Nutshell
Hi everyone out there. I am writing this blog to vent and get advise about my life in general.
A little bit about me: I am only 20 and have been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 years (started May 22, 2009), we have a dog together named Jax, and we are currently living together while finishing up college.
I am happy with my life most days; sometimes I feel like I am living beyond my years and it scares me. Everyone tells me that my relationship resembles an old married couple - that scares me. I don't want us to lose the romance so early, I mean we aren't even married and I know there is less spark between us.
Our dog was his idea, though I was not opposed to it, I feel like I spend the most time with the dog and take care of him the most. For example, I came home from class the other day and the dog was in his kennel because my boyfriend couldn't "handle" him any more. Mind you my boyfriend was upset because classes had not been cancelled due to weather (he still didn't go to class because he thought it was dumb that class wasn't cancelled). The dog just hit 5 months himself so he has a lot of energy and chews on everything. Am I paranoid when I think this behavior will translate to if/when we have kids? I mean babies cry and don't listen; the dog just gets into everything and doesn't listen and he "can't handle it." Today, the dog went to actively bite my boyfriend; I agree that this behavior should not be condoned and the dog be punished for it, but he wanted to put him in his cage for 6 and a half hours! I think that is excessive, even if he was being a bad dog.
I wish I knew how to tell him these things without sounding mean or passive aggressive; I just would hate to be the fighting couple everyone knows. I just wonder if I am being too passive or too nonchalant about things that bother me. I guess I am looking for advice but also just someone/something to vent to. All of my female friends are either away at college or too busy to hang out. I admittedly do not make good friends easily and I have a problem with excessive girl's behavior; I guess I am looking for an outlet that is safe but helpful, and I hope I can get that here.
I would be happy to get some constructive input, but if no one ends up reading this at least I feel better. I needed to get this off my chest and out in the open; even if it does not go to the person I truly want to tell all of this to, it is out there and I was able to reflect on my feeling - even if it is just nonsensical rambling.
A little bit about me: I am only 20 and have been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 years (started May 22, 2009), we have a dog together named Jax, and we are currently living together while finishing up college.
I am happy with my life most days; sometimes I feel like I am living beyond my years and it scares me. Everyone tells me that my relationship resembles an old married couple - that scares me. I don't want us to lose the romance so early, I mean we aren't even married and I know there is less spark between us.
Our dog was his idea, though I was not opposed to it, I feel like I spend the most time with the dog and take care of him the most. For example, I came home from class the other day and the dog was in his kennel because my boyfriend couldn't "handle" him any more. Mind you my boyfriend was upset because classes had not been cancelled due to weather (he still didn't go to class because he thought it was dumb that class wasn't cancelled). The dog just hit 5 months himself so he has a lot of energy and chews on everything. Am I paranoid when I think this behavior will translate to if/when we have kids? I mean babies cry and don't listen; the dog just gets into everything and doesn't listen and he "can't handle it." Today, the dog went to actively bite my boyfriend; I agree that this behavior should not be condoned and the dog be punished for it, but he wanted to put him in his cage for 6 and a half hours! I think that is excessive, even if he was being a bad dog.
I wish I knew how to tell him these things without sounding mean or passive aggressive; I just would hate to be the fighting couple everyone knows. I just wonder if I am being too passive or too nonchalant about things that bother me. I guess I am looking for advice but also just someone/something to vent to. All of my female friends are either away at college or too busy to hang out. I admittedly do not make good friends easily and I have a problem with excessive girl's behavior; I guess I am looking for an outlet that is safe but helpful, and I hope I can get that here.
I would be happy to get some constructive input, but if no one ends up reading this at least I feel better. I needed to get this off my chest and out in the open; even if it does not go to the person I truly want to tell all of this to, it is out there and I was able to reflect on my feeling - even if it is just nonsensical rambling.
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